She’s a mother, too.

I saw a lot of different types of Mother’s Day posts this weekend, but here’s the one I need to share.

I’ll never forget when a Christian speaker told all the women in the audience who have lost a child to stand up.

I bowed my head in shame.

But she said it again…

“ALL the women who have lost a child… from miscarriage, to death, and even to a bad choice…”

My bad choice.

I stood up.

It was the first time I was allowed to grieve what I had done… as a Mother.

It was the first time that I was able to weep for the child that was and should have been, but wasn’t… because I aborted her.

My choice didn’t make her any less human and through the years of regret and shame and guilt and sadness, I finally was able to celebrate HER.

It wasn’t about my choice; it was about the life that could have been.

That moment, I was simply a mother grieving her child… with SO many other mothers. And yes, I know that there is a difference between my choice and miscarriage and death, I do, but I am still a mom and she was still a child and that matters.

So, for all the moms out there who haven’t been given permission to grieve the babies you’ve lost to abortion.

Stand up.

Grieve.

You and they matter.

Today, I weep for her life. I weep for what I’ve missed. I weep for you who know the heartache of a terrible choice.

There is forgiveness.

There is healing and there is so much grace and love for you.

I’m here for you.